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    Finding a Family

    6.9/10 · 765 ratings·2011·1h 24m·Christmas·Weirdness 2/10
    Finding a Family poster

    At a glance

    2/10

    Comfortably conventional

    Holiday
    Christmas
    Season
    Multiple
    Setting
    Suburb
    Time period
    Contemporary
    Leads start as
    Complete Strangers
    Runtime
    1h 24m
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    The premise

    Bright Alex grows up in Michigan proud of his mother, Romanian immigrant Ileana, who became a professor, vowing to make her dream come true by graduating from Harvard. But when mother becomes manic-depressive and repeatedly dumps her medication, Alex each time lands in foster care. At age 16, he gets legal emancipation and vows to take charge of their lives himself.

    Themes:The power of educationChosen family vs. biological familyResilience in the face of mental illnessSelf-advocacy

    How unusual is it?

    Honestly? Not very — and that's the charm. It plays the hits, which is exactly the point for a cozy night in.

    Who’s in it

    Kim Delaney headshot

    Our Girl

    Kim Delaney

    as Ileana

    Jared Abrahamson headshot

    Our Guy

    Jared Abrahamson

    as Alex Chivescu

    Alongside them

    • Sarah-Jane Redmond headshot
      Sarah-Jane RedmondSuzanne Bante
    • Paul McGillion headshot
      Paul McGillionJim Bante
    • MacKenzie Porter headshot
      MacKenzie PorterJen Bante
    • Genevieve Buechner headshot
      Genevieve BuechnerLucy
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    • Dee Jay Jackson headshot
      Dee Jay JacksonHenry
    • Collin MacKechnie headshot
      Collin MacKechnieAlex at 10
    • Raf Rogers headshot
      Raf RogersCarlos
    • Miles Chalmers headshot
      Miles ChalmersDanny

    Behind the camera

    ShowHide

    Directed by

    • Mark Jean headshot
      Mark Jean

    Written by

    • Pamela Wallace headshot
      Pamela Wallace

    Wait, what?

    The quirks and curveballs that make this one a little weirder than your average Hallmark. No spoilers, promise.

    • The protagonist legally 'divorces' his mother in a Hallmark movie
    • The film features a gritty depiction of the foster care system and bipolar disorder
    • There is no primary romantic plotline for the lead character
    • The 'orphanage' has a strict 'no cell phone' and 'no job' policy that feels more like a prison

    Every trope, all in one place

    Here’s everything this one has going on, from the setting to the way it wraps up. Tap any of the 19 to find more movies that do the same thing.

    Setting2

    🏡Suburb🏫School

    Time & season3

    🔀Multiple🎄Christmas🗓️Contemporary

    Premise2

    🔒Secret Past🔒Hidden secret

    Characters1

    🎒Lead: Student

    Conflict2

    ⚖️Career vs Home/Family🔀Multiple Stakes stakes

    Romance3

    💕Start as complete strangers💕First kiss: never/implied🎁Grand gesture

    Tone & quirks5

    🎬Serious/Dramatic👨‍🍳Cooking scenes🧶Crafting scenes🎄Tree decorating💃Dance scene

    How it ends1

    🤝Family reconciliation

    How it all plays out

    Already seen it, or just can’t wait? Open this up for the whole story, ending included.

    Full story (spoilers)
    The film begins with Alex Chivescu writing letters to prospective foster families, explaining his unique situation as a high-achieving student at Eagle Creek High School. Through flashbacks, we see his early childhood with his mother, Ileana, a brilliant professor who instilled in him a love for learning and a dream of attending Harvard. Their lives change forever when Ileana suffers a serious head injury in a car accident, leading to the development of bipolar disorder. As she cycles through periods of stability and neglectful or abusive behavior, Alex is repeatedly placed in foster care. By age 16, Alex realizes that his mother's inability to stay on her medication will keep him in a cycle of instability. In a heartbreaking courtroom scene, he testifies to terminate her parental rights, not out of a lack of love, but for self-preservation. He is moved to Mercy Point, a restrictive orphanage where he is initially forbidden from having a job or a cell phone. There, he befriends a driver named Henry and a fellow resident named Carlos, whom he tutors in math. When budget cuts threaten his ability to attend Eagle Creek High for his senior year, Alex takes matters into his own hands and mails letters to families in the school district, asking for a home. He is briefly taken in by the Franks family, but they are soon transferred to New York. Eventually, Jim and Suzanne Bante and their daughter Jen respond to his letter. The Bantes offer him a permanent place in their family, but Alex struggles to transition from a survival mindset to a familial one, initially viewing the arrangement as a business transaction. Over the course of his senior year, Jen helps him realize he is worthy of love, and Jim and Suzanne provide the emotional support he lacked. A crisis with his mother's health forces Alex to confront his guilt over 'abandoning' her. With the Bantes' encouragement, he attends his Harvard interview and finally opens up about his past. The film concludes with Alex receiving his acceptance letter to Harvard and graduating as a top student. At the graduation party, he reconciles with his mother, who expresses her pride in him, and he acknowledges the Bantes as his true family.

    Beat by beat

    1. 1

      Opening

      Alex's mother suffers a brain injury in a car accident, leading to a decade of instability and foster care placements.

    2. 2

      Inciting Incident

      Alex legally terminates his mother's parental rights at age 16 to prevent being moved to a different school district.

    3. 3

      Midpoint

      Faced with losing his school placement due to budget cuts, Alex writes letters to strangers asking for a foster family.

    4. 4

      Rising Action

      The Bante family takes Alex in, but he struggles to accept their affection and rules, fearing he is just a 'charity case'.

    5. 5

      Climax

      Alex visits his mother in the hospital during a mental health crisis and finally allows the Bantes to support him emotionally.

    6. 6

      Resolution

      Alex is accepted into Harvard University and reconciles with his mother at his high school graduation.

    19 tropes in one movie

    We counted 19 distinct Hallmark tropes packed into this one — a genuine greatest-hits reel.

    How it stacks up

    Where this one’s rating lands against every other rated Hallmark movie.

    Rating 6.9 vs every rated Hallmark moviemedian 6.4This movie · 6.945678

    Higher-rated than 83% of every rated Hallmark movie. The median is 6.4.

    Where this one fits

    The corners of the catalog Finding a Family belongs to — handy if you’re after more of the same.

    • 🎄Best Hallmark Christmas MoviesIt is, of course, a Christmas movie.
    • 🧁Hallmark Baking & Cooking MoviesPlenty of time in the kitchen.

    Lines worth quoting

    The lines that stuck with us — the ones you’ll be repeating after the credits roll.

    • “Education is like a magic key to open any door. With it, anything is possible.”
      — Ileana NistorExplaining to young Alex why she moved to America and why he must study hard.
    • “It means that, according to the law, I won't have a mother anymore.”
      — Alex ChivescuTestifying in court to terminate his mother's parental rights.
    • “I'm a good kid in a bad circumstance. I need a home.”
      — Alex ChivescuThe central plea in the letters he sends to strangers.
    • “I already have what matters most... a family.”
      — Alex ChivescuTelling the Bantes how he feels before opening his Harvard acceptance letter.

    Meet the characters

    Who’s who before you press play. Nothing here gives the ending away.

    • Alex Chivescu

      Lead

      Student

      BrilliantResilientDrivenEmotionally guarded
    • Ileana Nistor

      Supporting

      Former Professor

      Biological Mother

      Mentally illLoving but unstableAcademic
    • Jim Bante

      Supporting

      Foster Father

      PatientFirmCompassionate
    • Suzanne Bante

      Supporting

      Homemaker

      Foster Mother

      NurturingPersistentKind
    • Henry

      Supporting

      Orphanage Driver

      Mentor and friend

      WiseStraight-talkingProtective

    Questions people ask about Finding a Family

    How long is Finding a Family?

    Finding a Family runs about 1 hour and 24 minutes, and was released in 2011.

    Is Finding a Family a Christmas movie?

    Yes. Finding a Family is a Hallmark Christmas movie, set during the holiday season.

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