How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First)

5.6/10 · 1,059 ratings20181h 25mWedding AnniversaryWeirdness 5/10Bingo card

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The premise

A marriage counselor's attempt to fix her own marriage by focusing on how to change her husband does not go as planned.

How unusual is it?

Middle of the road, with a twist — mistaken identity keeps it from being totally by-the-book.

A rare specific

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Who’s in it

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Wait, what?

The quirks and curveballs that make this one a little weirder than your average Hallmark. No spoilers, promise.

  • The protagonist literally uses dog training manuals to manipulate her husband's behavior.
  • The use of 'treats' (cookies) as a behavioral reinforcement tool for a grown man.
  • A secondary character (Aaron) is described as being so 'trained' that he is no longer himself.
  • The protagonist's research notes compare human contrition to a puppy's emotional state.
  • The plot involves making a husband jealous of a dog by pretending the dog's name belongs to a human lover.

Every trope, all in one place

Here’s everything this one has going on, from the setting to the way it wraps up. Tap any of the 31 to find more movies that do the same thing.

How it all plays out

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Full story (spoilers)
The film opens with Jillian James promoting her book 'How to Pick Your Second Husband' on a talk show, where she argues that marriage should be approached like a business transaction rather than a matter of the heart. Her personal life contradicts her professional success; her husband, Justin, feels neglected and unappreciated. After a disastrous award ceremony where Justin fails to wear a suit, he surprises Jillian with a trip to Paris for their anniversary. Jillian refuses to go due to a book deadline, prompting Justin to leave for Europe alone. During his absence, Jillian's friend Nicole, a dog trainer, explains how she 'trained' her own husband, Aaron, using canine behavioral techniques. Jillian is skeptical but eventually takes a 'loaner' puppy named Henry and begins studying dog training manuals. When Justin returns, Jillian applies these techniques—using positive reinforcement, 'treats' (homemade cookies), and a softer tone of voice—to modify his behavior. To keep him on his toes, she lies about the dog's name, calling him 'George,' and allows Justin to believe 'Henry' is a mysterious male friend. The experiment initially works, as Justin becomes more attentive and even starts wearing suits. However, the deception collapses when Justin and Aaron find Jillian's research notes in her office. The notes explicitly compare Justin's behavior to a puppy's, including observations on 'contrition' and 'unconditional affection.' Justin is deeply offended, feeling his manhood has been stripped away, and he moves out to stay with Aaron. Jillian's mother, Mona, who has been cynical about men throughout the film, surprisingly encourages Jillian to fight for her marriage. Jillian realizes that she was the one who needed 'training' to appreciate her husband's true nature. She tracks Justin down at a bistro, apologizes for her manipulative behavior, and admits she would choose him all over again. They reconcile, and the film ends with Jillian writing a new, more heart-centered book titled 'How to Pick Your Second Husband First,' while incorporating 'puppy therapy' into her practice.

Beat by beat

  1. Opening

    Jillian promotes her pragmatic marriage book while her own marriage to Justin suffers from a lack of communication and mutual respect.

  2. Inciting Incident

    Justin leaves for a solo trip to Europe after Jillian refuses to go to Paris, leading Jillian to seek advice from her dog-trainer friend Nicole.

  3. Midpoint

    Jillian begins 'training' Justin upon his return using positive reinforcement and cookies, while lying about the dog's name to make Justin jealous.

  4. Complication

    Justin becomes suspicious of 'Henry' and finds Jillian's research notes comparing his behavior to that of a dog.

  5. Climax

    Justin confronts Jillian about the experiment and leaves her, leading Jillian to have a breakthrough about her own controlling behavior.

  6. Resolution

    Jillian and Justin reconcile at a bistro; Jillian writes a new book based on her personal growth rather than clinical checklists.

31 tropes in one movie

We counted 31 distinct Hallmark tropes packed into this one — a genuine greatest-hits reel.

How it stacks up

Where this one’s rating lands against every other rated Hallmark movie.

Rating 5.6 vs every rated Hallmark moviemedian 6.4This movie · 5.6567

Among the lower-rated Hallmark movies — the median is 6.4.

Where this one fits

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Lines worth quoting

The lines that stuck with us — the ones you’ll be repeating after the credits roll.

  • “Every 36 seconds there's a divorce happening in America, which tells me there's a problem.”
    — Jillian JamesDuring her initial TV interview explaining her clinical approach to marriage.
  • “I turned him into whatever it is that I wanted him to be. He's Aaron.”
    — Jillian JamesRealizing she has stripped her friend's husband of his personality through 'training'.
  • “You think you know all about men, don't you? That we're just simple creatures? We just go around peeing on whatever belongs to us?”
    — JustinWhen he confronts Jillian about her research notes.

Meet the characters

Who’s who before you press play. Nothing here gives the ending away.

  • Jillian James

    Lead

    Marriage Therapist and Author

    AnalyticalControllingPragmaticWorkaholic
  • Justin

    Love interest

    Adventure/Expedition Specialist

    Husband

    SpontaneousPatientOutdoorsySensitive
  • Nicole

    Supporting

    Dog Trainer

    Best Friend

    EncouragingManipulativeCheerful
  • Mona

    Supporting

    Mother

    CynicalBluntSkeptical
  • Aaron

    Supporting

    Friend's Husband

    DomesticatedFriendlySubservient

Questions people ask about How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First)

Where can I watch How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First)?

How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First) is available via Amazon Prime Video, UP Faith & Family Apple TV channel, and Amazon Prime Video with Ads. Streaming options change often, so check current availability before settling in.

How long is How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First)?

How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First) runs about 1 hour and 25 minutes, and was released in 2018.

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Our review

We watched How to Train Your Husband or (How to Pick Your Second Husband First) so you don’t have to

Alanna sat through every minute of this one and recapped the whole thing — the plot holes, the chemistry, the parts that made no sense — over on the Talking Hallmark channel.

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